Everything in your body is saying yes to what the person you're getting hot and heavy with wants to do next, but you pull back, take a breath, and say, "Uuugh! I want to, but I think I better hold off until I have a chance to talk to my partner about it first..."

This doesn't seem like a bad thing...It seems thoughtful, considerate and reasonable, right? For the same reasons it makes perfect sense that you're upset when your partner comes home and tells you they genuinely accidentally went a little further than your current agreements allow.

You value trust. Safety. Honesty. Closeness. Connection.

And everything you've ever read about polyamory has pointed you in the direction of clear agreements like these. And it makes sense. You like the idea of having the clarity and security of knowing that you'll have time to adjust to what your partner wants to do and vice versa.

Only, you haven't actually experienced the sense of freedom that you were hoping to feel when you decided to open up the relationship.

It feels like you spend five or more hours processing about something that wouldn't even take more than an hour to do. You don't really think of it as settling or compromising on what you want, because you know who your partner is and if you only give them some more time you're pretty sure they'll come around and then hopefully you can do what you want WITHOUT negatively impacting them or the relationship.

Because, let's face it, this whole polyamory thing has turned out to be surprisingly more complex than you expected, right? It's triggering you more deeply than you expected with the pangs of jealousy and gut-wrenching visions in your head of your partner being with other people.

You feel guilty for being out on a date and genuinely enjoying yourself while your partner is home, anxious and potentially having a panic attack... But then when you're the one at home while they're out, it's not much easier for you either...

Maybe you talk about being "solo poly" like it's a threat, as a desperate plea for your partner to slow down, or speed up, or whatever it is that would need to happen for you two to be on the same page...

I know that's how it was for me, anyway.

On the bad days, I was sobbing and my partner was yelling.

On the awkward days, we cuddled up in the hammock, feeling kind of disconnected because we were both lost in our dream-sequence playbacks of the night before we'd each spent with other people, but afraid to tell each other too much or say the wrong thing.

On the good days, we'd have made it through a difficult conversation, feeling closer for having talked it all through. Feeling like we could see and understand each other more clearly than at the beginning, and thinking we were on the same page again, until, inevitably, not too much later, one of us would want to do more than what the other was comfortable with and we'd be back in the pattern of upset again.

Sound familiar?

I mean, you're smart, emotionally-intelligent, an excellent communicator, and you help your clients create amazing breakthroughs in every session. You're fiercely dedicated to your own personal growth and you want to do the healing it requires... but you're beginning to wonder if you're ever going to make progress or if it's really just an exercise in futility and maybe one or both of you isn't cut out for it.

If you're honest with yourself, you know that part of the problem is that, if they don't get on board soon with what you wanna do, you're gonna start feeling pretty resentful, if you don't already. And that's not the energy you want to live with.

What you really want is to create beautiful, deep, heart-connected connections with people, where you can explore romance if it feels right and move at the pace that feels right for you.

You trust your body and your gut when it comes to your business, but it feels like the compass gets a bit wonky when it comes to your personal relationships. You wish that it would be simpler, that you could just do what felt right to you in the moment, but you are deeply in love with your partner and really don't want to hurt them or create more upset between you...

The problem is, it doesn't really work that way.

Unfortunately, many of the things you are doing in an attempt to avoid hurting your partner or negatively impacting the relationship are really just kicking the can down the road.

It's a lot like someone buying something they can't afford on credit and thinking that it solved their cashflow problem.

It makes it look like things are fine, and actually does relieve the pressure of paying for the thing they need in the moment...but when that bill comes due, they end up in a worse situation, paying an even higher price.

You're too experienced to do that when it comes to your finances, but when it comes to polyamory, the reality is, you're a bit like that 19 year old in college using the credit card to pay your bills. They think they're being responsible by paying their bills, but they're missing some key information and not looking at the big picture.

The same thing is happening for you in your relationships. You think you're being kind and loving and building a safe foundation, but you don't even know there IS an "interest rate" let alone how much it is or how to avoid it. You think that the agreements you're making and the ways you're slowing down for your partner are you "being responsible" but what if it's you silently racking up debt?

Hint: It is.

And you're not alone in being confused about it.

In Zero-Drama Poly™ I'll explain to you how to get off the exhausting teeter-totter of polyamory—where every step toward your truth is followed by a step back into someone else’s comfort.

In this training I'll help you recognize and identify the exact patterns that are keeping you and your partner cycling between feeling upset that you seem to be at an impasse and being afraid to lose each other. This is how you unlearn the invisible patterns that keep you saying "okay" when because you're afraid to say no, telling yourself "later" when you really want it now, and constantly wondering if whatever you want to do is "worth" the conversations or upset you'll be having afterwards.

Zero Drama Poly™ is a direct, honest, and game-changing 2-hour training with Wendy Garrido, America’s premier personal & sexual sovereignty coach for emotionally-intelligent, visionary coaches & entrepreneurs.

Most advice about polyamory or open relationships is pretty basic if you already have the high level self-growth and communication skills that you do. This is different. It's advanced polyamory strategy for highly emotionally-intelligent, successful, self-growth oriented entrepreneurs like you.

Inside, you’ll learn:

• Why More Conversations Aren't Going to Create The Connection You Want—and What Actually Does

• The Real Reason Agreements Collapse (It’s Not What You Think)

• The 12 Hidden Patterns Creating Poly Drama (Even In Conscious Relationships)

• The Difference Between L.A.S.E.R.-Focused Boundaries And Requests—and How To Stop Confusing Them

• How To Stop Holding Back Your Truth, Waiting for Someone Else's Approval

• What Self-Centered Polyamory™ Actually Looks Like—and Why It’s Not Selfish at All, But It's the Foundation of Happy, Free, Polyamory.

You’ll walk away with tools, language, and clarity you can use immediately.

✨ Who It’s For

I created this training for you if:

• You’re polyamorous or seriously considering polyamory and aren't sure how to exercise your personal sovereignty without breaking trust in your current relationships

• You’re the “emotionally intelligent one” who still ends up in messy dynamics and isn't quite sure what you're missing

• Even though you deeply love and are committed to your current partner/s, you’re tired of holding back and compromising on what feels good and right to you while you waaaaaaait for them to feel better about it. (And you can feel the pressure building, that either you need to start following your aliveness or you're gonna lose yourself.)

• You want less chaos—and more freedom, without sacrificing physical or emotional intimacy

• You’re craving tools that are direct, nuanced, and speak to you as the wise, powerful, coach that you are, showing you where your blind spots are, calling you out when you're lying to yourself, and inviting you to trust your body and dig deeper into what you actually desire--and why you're telling yourself you can't have it.