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I help world-class entrepreneurs eliminate the unexpected challenges of open relationships by unlocking the logic of their emotions through the lens of personal development and authenticity.
My revolutionary approach, Self-Centered Polyamory™, is the antidote to the conventional teachings of ethical non-monogamy that simply don’t hold up when your goal is to create healthy, resilient, long-term relationships rooted in freedom, honesty, personal growth and personal sovereignty.
A TRAIL-BLAZING LEADER
CREATOR OF "SEXUAL SOVEREIGNTY" THE BOARD GAME
The World's First Polyamory-Based Board Game
-- It's Tittilating!
FOUNDER OF
The First (and Only!) Award for Authenticity in Business - Now 5 Years Running!
AMAZON #1
BEST-SELLING AUTHOR
Soon to Release Her Second Book...
As the #1 Polyamory Coach for Transformational Leaders, My Clients are Freedom-Seekers Devoted to Experiencing Romantic and Sexual Sovereignty—Without Giving Up Emotional Intimacy
If you're tired of compromising your aliveness for the sake of your relationships…
If you’re caught in endless negotiations that still leave someone feeling hurt, trapped, or devastated…
If you're ready to step into radical self-responsibility and lovingly transform your part in the dysfunction…
...Then you're exactly where you need to be.
I'm here to help you transfer the power, freedom, and aliveness that you already command in your professional world and experience it in all your loving relationships.
The L ast Frontier in Freedom
I don't sugar coat things.
My divorce was ab-so-lutely, fucking gut-wrenching...
But the reason I am here…
Supporting brave-hearted, successful, self-growth-oriented people like you is because…
No matter HOW hard things got, no matter how heart-broken I felt, there has never been a single moment when I thought I made the wrong choice.
There has never been a single moment when I wished I HADN’T honored my inner truth.
Because all the time freedom and money freedom in the world can't make up for a lack of sexual freedom.
And despite it all, I came out the other side having discovered sooo many new aspects of myself.
Feeling free to BE more fully myself.
Getting to be a happier, more engaged, and emotionally present mom to my kids.
I feel proud to model for them what it looks like to care for yourself while being compassionate toward others.
I get to speak to them about romantic and sexual sovereignty from my actual lived experience.
Every Day that I Get to Go on a Date with One Person I Love Deeply and Tell Them About the Hot Night of Romance I Had the Night Before with Someone Else I Love Deeply—I Feel SO Incredibly Lucky...
It’s one thing to find one relationship where you feel deeply seen, loved, supported, connected, and pleasured.
It’s MINDBLOWING to have several… 🤯 🤯 🤯
And to have it all be out in the open…
It’s extraordinarily liberating to experience the sexual sovereignty of doing whatever I want with whomever I want, whenever I want—without needing to ask permission, apologize, or fear the ramifications in my other relationships.
But it was not a straight line from monogamy to sovereignty.
It’s been a fucking journey.
And I’ve been on either side of just about every dynamic that can arise in poly relationships…
And my neurodivergent brain has been collecting data all along the way.
The social scientist in me has been making observations and comparing variables.
The educator in me has been looking for patterns and frameworks to better explain to others what I’ve learned.
And the culmination of all that is what I bring to the work I do with my clients—and is woven into every product and program I create.
"Through this work with Wendy, I’m learning to rein in my emotional investment, meet people where they are, and let things play out without rushing or forcing clarity…
That shift has changed everything for me."
Jaclyn Z.
"Great information presented in a logical, entertaining way."
Amazon Customer
Richard Owen Irwin
"This book is well-written and super informative."
Amazon Customer
Mark R. Hunter
"This is by far the best book I have found on the topic."
Amazon Customer
elguaposweater
"A well-written guide"
Amazon Customer
Jack W. English
Praise from Entrepreneurs...
R. Lewette
Mukti J.
Lethia O.
Praise for My Books...
Each of my Books is the Culmination of 7 Years of Living My Life Oriented Around Mastering One of the Most Powerful and Popular Trends of the Decade...
I'm known for writing practical, helpful page turners that will give you the smartest, most effective, and efficient approaches while making you laugh out loud or (sometimes) bringing tears to your eyes.
(Don't be fooled by the photo... My name's on the interior cover and on Amazon 'cuz I wrote every word in Smart Pickleball for him.)
"I didn't want to put your book down!"
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Kay Seamayer
"Straightforward and an easy read."
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Richard Abel
"I read it at least once a month!"
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R. Wentzel
"I'm going to read this again and again."
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LZ
"When I started coaching with Wendy, I didn’t know exactly what I was signing up for; I just had a super strong hunch that I had to get in ASAP. My gut was screaming at me to sign up fast...
Wendy embodies values I care about, and we can talk about life, business, and everything in between. I’m really glad I brought her into my world."
Sofia W.
"Would I recommend this book? ABSOLUTELY!!!!!"
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Dave
"I would like to thank you for sharing this knowledge!"
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A Picture Paints 1000 Words
"This book is excellent...a good sense of humor...a very enjoyable read."
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Karen Zemek
"I have only read the first 50 pages but it has helped me already."
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Emotional Expertise on Demand
The best way to get to know me—FAST—is to binge-watch my Youtube channel or check out my private podcast.
"After our weekend retreat, I felt like I wasn’t alone anymore. I had a true partner in my mission to change the world. Six months later, my finances, my clients, my confidence and even my relationships are all in a dramatically better place, thanks to the clarity Wendy helped me find. I’m really excited for where we are now and where we’re going."
--Karsten K.
Here's What I Learned...
Every day you spend “waiting” for them to support you in doing what already feels right to you only adds to the heartbreak when eventually you realize that you have no choice but to betray yourself or betray them.
Every commitment you make to delay something you want to do for your partner’s sense of emotional safety or comfort denies them the opportunity to learn to create that sense of safety for themselves.
Every desperate repair conversation you have in an attempt to feel better understood by your partner—or your partner by you—only perpetuates the misguided notion that you are (or were ever) responsible for how they feel, or that their words or actions are (or were ever) the source of your suffering.
No one else can tell you what decisions are right for you, no matter how much they love you.
No one else is responsible for safeguarding your emotions, no matter how much you both (we all) wish they could be.
No one else is going to want the exact same thing for you as you want for yourself for the rest of your life, no matter how similar you are or how committed you are to maintaining your relationships in a certain way.
I'm Nothing Like Other Relationship Coaches,
Because The ONLY Relationship I Will Coach You On Is the One with Yourself
Other coaches work with couples and polycules...
They will tell you that there are many ways to do polyamory...
And technically, they’re not wrong.
Just like there are a thousand ways to move your body.
But if you’re training for the emotional Olympics...
If your goal is gold-medal-level intimacy, self-expression, and sovereignty...
Then suddenly, the standards are higher.
Not every movement is the most efficient for building strength.
Not every path toward freedom is worth the time it takes to travel.
Not every approach to polyamory will take you where you want to go.
You don’t want an Olympic coach who shrugs and says, “Some people like crunches. You could try those.”
Hell no.
You want someone who’s been where you’re trying to go...
And has helped others get there, too.
You want a coach with a method that’s proven—AND an approach that honors your individuality.
That’s what I offer.
And my Self-Centered Polyamory™ framework delivers.
It’s not a one-size-fits-all formula.
It’s a high-resolution, topographical map of the terrain.
I’ll show you the pitfalls. Suggest your best routes. Share my favorite warm-up exercises. And remind you to pick up your compass and wipe the mud off the lens when you've lost your way.
But only YOU can place one foot in front of the other—and you're the one that determines the pace. Because YOU are the one actually encountering the obstacles as you search for the best footholds.
Sure—there are many ways to do polyamory, and OF COURSE yours will be unique to you.
But if what you want is emotional resilience…
Deep connection...
And to feel fully liberated in who and how you love....
Then, no. There really AREN'T that many ways to do it.
I know, because I’ve already crossed that wild terrain...And I did a helluva lot of bushwhacking before I found the path.
Which is why circling back to walk alongside you—to simplify your journey and accelerate your evolution—is the ONLY way I can think of to make my already-delicious, sexually sovereign life even richer and more meaningful.
But what about you?
If You're Reading These Words, You Must Be Ready for a Better Approach
How much longer can you keep putting off what feels right for you?
How many more hours of negotiation are you going to invest pretending that your partner's deepest sense of safety is dependent upon what you do or don't do with someone else?
How long is it going to take before you are willing to prove that you actually DO trust your partner to navigate their own personal growth?
How much of yourself are you going to keep holding back in your romantic and sexual encounters?
Which parts of yourself are you going to keep shoving down to the back of your mind, delaying the fullest expression of who you are and can be?
I have some availability to work with a few more visionary leaders for a 1-on-1 VIP Day with 30 Days of follow-up support.
Polyamory Should Be Sweet & Easy. (It's the Self-Growth That Takes Work)
Most People Aren't Willing to Do the Inner Work and Even if They Are, They Don't Have a Clear Understanding of What it Really Takes...
But You're Different. And I Am, Too.
You Bring Your Background in Personal Development. I'll Give You the Framework You Need.
My clients are fiercely devoted to their inner work.
If you're like them, you are hungry to heal from your past and expand your vision of what's possible--at the same time that you have a deep sense of acceptance for accepting where you are right now.
You already have the emotional intelligence, interpersonal skills, and self-growth tools... You've already found people you care deeply about it. Now it's time to get crystal clear on why these patterns are still coming up for you so you can navigate open love with clarity, sovereignty, and emotional congruence.
My methodology is like no other because *I* am like no other coach you've met.
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